Stop Saying You’re Fine by Mel Robbins
1. Chronic neck pain
- 1/2 c warm milk
- 1/2 banana at room temperature
- 1/4 tsp. ground cinnamon
- 1/4 tsp. ground nutmeg (fresh if possible)
- 1/2 tsp. pure vanilla extract
- 1 tsp. pure maple syrup or honey (optional)
and it’s all in your head.
Literally. The difference between joy and stress is totally under your control. You cannot decide what will happen, but you can decide how you will handle it. As I mentioned in a previous post, I tried to do a lesson in my painting class (still life of a bowl) while in a stressed-out state. It didn’t go well:
I was in a hurry, I was thinking about other things, and I was looking at the task as something to get done, rather than as something I could enjoy. I guess what I’m saying is I was not being mindful of my activity. I was letting everything else get in the way, and I was letting stress dictate my outcome. As you can see it wasn’t a really good outcome. I was disappointed not only in the painting, but also in myself. This was not was I was going for in painting, or in life. This was not joyful.
Thankfully I was able to learn from the situation. I saw where I went wrong, and over the weekend I tried again. This time I decided to paint MINDFULLY. When it was time to paint I made a conscious decision that that was all I was going to think about. I set aside the other things I was worrying about and I gave myself permission to take my time and make mistakes. I was much calmer, and even though the end result was not perfect, I actually enjoyed myself. And I think it shows:
And this while my two daughters were painting with me. They each needed help and interrupted me often, but I decided to roll with it rather than get upset by it. I knew what I needed to do and I worked around their issues so I could help them and do what I needed, all while keeping a joyful outlook.
So I learned that I can chose my outcome. I can choose between joy and stress, and I have to say, I prefer joy. But like my painting it’s still a work in progress. I’m not perfect and I don’t choose joy every time, but I’m learning that it’s an option. I’m remembering more often that I can take a breath and decide how I want to proceed, rather than just reacting to an unpleasant situation. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely more joyful!
Do you have any examples of times you consciously chose joy over stress? Please share!
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Joy to you all!